Women, Self-fulfillment and Roles
The homeschooling mother-of-five who prepares home-cooked meals for her family is often seen as a slave to patriarchal society by feminist today. The feminist career woman, with children in daycare (or a husband who stays home with the children) is often seen as the woman who has it all.
Perhaps this is the great lie. Western society says women can be great mothers and great career women. However, what society ends up with is plenty of half-baked mothers and half-baked career women. Feminism teaches women that they can 'juggle it all and have it all' because they are strong and independent. They say motherhood is important, but 'self-fulfillment' is more important.
In my experience, the women chasing 'self-fulfillment' are the least self-fulfilled women I know. Those who chase the fulfillment of others are, in contrast, the most fulfilled women I know. The latter group are often mothers, who put their children first and are content with this role. I believe motherhood is one of a woman's most important roles. If a woman were to accept this role she would not have to run around stressed to the max, trying to prove she can have the best of both worlds (career and family). I don’t mean to say mothers have no importance besides being a caregiver, but if a woman is a mother, motherhood is pretty much her primary role.
The Gospel, Motherhood and Submission
Christian women should embrace motherhood. Like Jesus, we will give up our own desires to fulfill the desires of those around us. Jesus did not see equality with the Father as something to be grasped but made Himself a little lower than the angels.
Unlike Jesus, women today often try to wrest power from their husband’s, by acting like them in many ways. They see equality as something to be grasped. Moreover, feminism pits women against men. It likes to imply that men regard women as less worthy and forces them into the position of the enemy. Helen Reddy’s song, ‘I am Woman’ suggests as much in verse two:
You can bend but never break me
'Cause it only serves to make me
More determined to achieve my final goal
And I come back even stronger
Not a novice any longer
'Cause you've deepened the conviction in my soul
Women should not have to fight men for equality. Instead, they should realise they are made differently to males and are equal to them. They should also seek to make themselves their husband’s helpers. Women should enjoy being women. If embraced, ‘womanism’ is an excellent and fulfilling role.
So, in short, I don't believe the feminist career woman has it all. From what I've seen, there is more to be said for the stay-at-home mother who works at home quietly, with little glory from her fellow women. This life is an exciting and self-fulfilling role.