I was cutting carrots this morning. The knife I was using wasn’t all that sharp. I wished I had a sharper knife. “Wouldn’t it be good if carrots sharpened knives?” I thought. Truth is, I needed some iron to sharpen my knife. This is a pretty basic biblical principle. That is, “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” (Prov 27:17)
But this article is not so much about iron as it is about men. I believe we have forgotten Paul’s exhortation in Titus 2:3-5 which says, “[Older women] are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.”
When we do one-on-ones, our mentors are usually other men or women of the same age. And while they are godly people, they often have little idea about the next step in life. I myself am guilty of this and have recently been convicted. I do two one-on-one’s (when one person meets with another person) every week with a woman a year younger, and one a year older. We study the Bible together and talk about the things going on in our lives.
While we try to mentor each other, the truth is, we sometimes have very little clue of the wise answer to give. For instance, both the girls I see have never been engaged or married. Therefore, they have never talked about the relationship they have with their in-laws (something I would like some advice on from time-to-time). They have never had a house of their own. Or had to submit to a man, despite thinking (wrongly or rightly) he was going the wrong direction.
While I love these girls greatly, I don’t get particularly helpful advice on these types of issues (despite them both having studied in a theological capacity for quite some time). I do, however, get this type of advice from my mother, my mother’s friends and other older women in the church. Of course, this is exactly what Titus 2 is getting at!
Wouldn’t it be fantastic if an older woman in your congregation offered to meet up with a younger woman once a fortnight? What if an older man suggested to a younger they go kayaking once a month? The older could teach the younger how to love their wife/husband (I know this is a hard issue – even for a young girl or boy trained in the Bible their whole lives), how to be self-controlled, pure, how to work at home well, how to be kind and submissive. All this is so the servants of God are not seen as hypocrites, and God’s Word is not reviled.
Ok. So I know I go on about it. But I think it’s a really important issue to get straightened out. That is, we simply do not value the wise teachings of older people.
In light of this I would like to ask two questions:
To the older woman: Are you mentoring a younger person? If not, why not offer your services and shout a young lady a coffee every fortnight.
To the younger woman: Are you being mentored? If not, why not ask an older lady whom you respect to mentor you.
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